Safety

Some of this needs a person, not a website.

This page is short on purpose. If you recognise yourself on it, act on it rather than reading on.

Now

  • If you are thinking about harming yourself, or feel unable to go on, contact your local emergency services or a crisis line immediately.
  • The same if you have arrived at the thought that everybody would be better off without you. Carrying a decision like this can take a man there. It is not a thought to sit alone with tonight.
  • If somebody on the list has said anything that frightened you about their own safety, treat that as urgent and get a qualified person involved today rather than handling it yourself.
  • If anybody has threatened you or your family: emergency services.
  • If you are worried about a child's safety: contact the child protection or safeguarding service where you live, today.

A qualified adviser, not a website

  • Anything procedural or legal — consultation, notice, selection, settlement agreements, the risk of a claim, in any country. An employment lawyer. This site gives none of it, and will not, even if you ask directly.
  • A business that cannot pay wages, or is days from insolvency. A licensed insolvency practitioner can act faster than most men expect, and delay narrows the options.
  • Personal debt that has become the emergency. A free specialist debt advice service exists in most countries and is not the same as your bank.

Nothing on this site tells you what your obligations are or what your options are worth. Getting that from a website rather than a professional is how men make this considerably worse.

A doctor

  • Sleep gone for weeks rather than nights.
  • Drinking or anything else that has become how you get through the current period.
  • Chest pain, breathlessness, or any sudden physical change. That is urgent care now, not a website.
  • Feeling nothing at all, or unable to function at home.

Severe alcohol withdrawal — seizures, hallucinations, severe confusion, frightening shaking — is emergency care now.

If it is happening to you

This site is written for the man who has to carry out redundancies. If you are the one being made redundant, or you have been paid and told not to come in, the network has guides written for that, linked at the bottom of every page.

Nothing here is addressed to you and it would not help you.